Mixed Feelings

You may have been able to tell from the title that today's topic is interracial dating/relationships.

There are two reasons for me writing this post. First, I am tired of writing about head-ties and weave. Secondly, I discovered that an ex of mine is now dating a white dude.. and It has come to my attention that the love of my life and #2 on my smash-list, Kelly Rowland is also dating a white dude...

Wait... before I continue, let me throw in a quick disclaimer, "I am not [a] racist, I have white friends.." LOL

Now, we are all familiar with the common pairing, when you think about "interracial dating", instantly an image of a big black guy with a white girl (usually a blonde) pops into your head..

well, recently I have noticed more and more black chicks and white dudes.. Is this the new fashion trend. Now, don't get it twisted, I'm not on a "they are taking all our women" tip, but they are! LOL.

Last year the trend was black lesbians. I attempted to tackle this issue in a post i titled "Les-bi-honest". In the comments someone said -

[Black] men need to ask themselves why females feel the need to turn to other females...this should b a lesson to all fellas to start acting right

Can the same be said about black chicks "new" liking for white men? Are black women turning there backs on black men and exploring their options?

Or maybe they are just getting us back for leaving your ass's for white girls?

I'd like to say that everyone is entitled to happiness regardless of who they find it in. Happiness is primary, race is secondary. but we live in a world were prejudice exists.

Interracial dating is no longer a taboo... and we are heading to the days when everyone will be beige mixed, but pressure from family, friends and wider society must still exist.

Pressure still exists even within black/black relationships, as highlighted in last weeks episode of "The Family"; a fly on the wall documentary that follows the lives of a Anglo-Nigerian family. For those that haven't been paying their TV licence (me included), it can be watched here.

The programme reminded me that, although Afro/Carib relationships are common, there is still a cultural divide and crossing that divide can be like crossing a mine-field, especially if you have "traditional" African parents and your lady-friend is a Ja-may-kan (by the way, if you are black and not African, you are automatically Jamaican).

The majority of the stories I hear involve non-African (Jamaican) girls being treated like they "stole meat from the pot" by their boyfriends African parents, but I'm sure the ignorance goes both ways.... feel free to share your views by commenting.

Luckily my mum is liberal and would not have any issue with me settling down with a Jamaican girl, but i've gotta make sure she doesn't see this video...



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